Is it Wrong to Wait?

            What if the thing that you’ve been waiting for all your life is already in front of you but you gotta wait a little more time until it becomes truly yours?

            Palagi kong tinatanong sa sarili ko kung mali ba na ako ang maghintay. Ako yung babae e, bakit ako yung maghihintay sa kanya? Bakit ako? Diba dapat ako yung hinihintay niya? Mali e. Mali.

            Sabi nila, kung worth it naman, hindi mali ang maghintay. Pero paano mo ba malalaman na worth it? Paano mo malalaman na karapatdapat siya na hintayin? Sapat na ba yung tiwala lang? Sapat na ba yung pagmamahal? Sapat na ba na kilala mo siya? Until I asked someone, “is it wrong to wait?” Sabi niya, “Too long is stupidity. Love yourself too.” Then I asked him, “how long is too long?” He replied, “It depends on what is your definition of too long.” That time naliwanagan ako. Siguro magiging mali na nga ang paghihintay kung labag na sa loob mo. Mali na ang paghihintay kung pagod ka na pero tuloy ka pa rin. Mali na ang paghihintay kung naiinip ka na pero para ka pa ring tanga kakahitay sa kanya. Para kasi sa’kin, “too long” means pagod ka na, sawa ka na, inip ka na, ayaw mo na.

            Kaya hangga’t kaya mo pa, tama lang yan. Hindi porket ikaw yung babae, mali na ikaw ang maghintay. Kasi ang totoo, para gumana ang isang relasyon, hindi lang dapat yung lalaki ang gumagawa ng effort, pati rin yung babae. Dahil hindi naman kayo magwo-work kung palaging isa lang ang gumagawa ng paraan para maging ayos kayo. Importante rin na huwag magbilangan ng effort na nagawa para sa isa’t isa, dahil ang pagmamahal, hindi dapat isinusumbat, ipinaparamdam.

"Umasa ka kaya ka nasasaktan."
"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.”- Richard Bach – Yeah?.. well fuck that shit and fuck Richard Bach. Do you honestly think, I have the time to meet someone, click, grow an attachment, fall in love, deeply in love, I’m not talking your average crush, I’m talking, going back to the days where we used to write love letters from long distances type of love, the “making a cup of tea and blowing it until its warm enough for them to drink” type of love… to have a soul connection, miss them, crave them, submit to them, etc.. just to let them go in the future. Wdf. Listen, if it’s gotton deep enough for me to fall into that type of love, I’m not letting you go. Fuck, I hate this generation of replacers. If something goes wrong, instead of fixing it, we replace, or let it go or some other dumb shit. No. Richard Bach, who is divorced, I will not take advice from you. As long as it isn’t toxic and unhealthy, I am not letting go."

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"Just keep holding on. It will be worth it."
"I just want to know that you still care."
"Kung ayaw mong magduda siya, wag mo siyang bigyan ng dahilan para pagdudahan ka."
"Ayos lang magselos, basta walang halong pagdududa."
"If it is worth having, it is worth waiting."
"Why invest time and effort on someone who will not do the same?"